The wealth is in the difference. A. Jacquard
How should you manage your difference? Besides, are we really different from the others? The question comes to mind as if I already had the answer. But in reality, no, I don't have it.
Because yes the difference divides, yes we are all different. But are we, as bipolar people, even more different?
Bipolarity is a particularity that cannot be ignored. It can chain, destroy, kill. To be bipolar is, by definition, to be different. But, for all that, should we differentiate ourselves from others? And if that's the case, how do you manage this sometimes cumbersome difference?
We are all different from each other. Even the most similar twins are different. And besides, how could we build ourselves if we were really all the same? Many possibilities and opportunities would be destroyed since wealth is found in diversity.
Diversity, a source of wealth. That is something that should be remembered. The world is made of diversity, and that is what makes it strong. If we take over the life of a human, it is also thanks to his various experiences that he can move forward.
So why should we see the difference as a defect, as something that is scary and that we should avoid?
Psychological disorders whose bipolarity have often been stigmatized and unfortunately still are. However, it would be good to see this particularity as an opportunity and not as a disadvantage.
Admittedly, the thing is heavy to bear and it even leads to despair and suicide all too often. Because yes, let's say it, it's a killer disease. But, if you dig a little deeper, it's a disease that shapes, tests and sometimes creates opportunities.
Maybe I'm going to lose you after these words. However, what I can say from my experience is that bipolarity has shaped my character, it has made me stronger, more resilient and more humble despite the difficulties that sometimes seem insurmountable.
Today, it seems good to me to see the difference as something beneficial and rewarding. Because that is the case. You have to be enriched by the differences that exist just as you have to be enriched by the new.
Let's see the difference more as something new, as something we don't know. It is intriguing, it makes us think. It can also frighten us but also make us curious. Let's be curious about the difference because it makes us grow.
I always felt different. Not that I saw myself as stronger or smarter than the others. No. On the contrary. I could see that I didn't work like everyone else, that I was slower at some things and faster at others. I could see that I was not able to integrate like everyone else and that my sensitivity to things was very developed.
Should we throw the stone at ourselves for being what we are?
I mean... we're not murderers or thieves. We are just sick. And I think that this disease should never be a barrier to the advancement of life. On the contrary, it should be seen as a challenge. It's a tough challenge to win, but who said life was easy for everyone?
You don't choose what you experience. However, we choose the reaction that we are going to give in response to what we are experiencing. Life is unfair for giving us this disease. Yes, it is true. But should we spend our life saying that to ourselves when time flies and will never be returned to us?
I know it's easier said than done, again. But it's just like everything. It will always be more difficult to get started on a project and stick to it over time than to watch TV. With bipolarity, it's the same thing. It will always be more difficult to try to overcome it than to let it dictate our actions.
However, this does not mean that we get there every day. How many times have I found myself feeling discouraged? How many times have I gotten mad at myself for not moving? How many times have I given up?
A certain number of times. But the important thing is to roll up your sleeves once again when you've pulled them down.
Never give up, always persevere.
We are all different. One will have a big nose, the other a small one. One will be small, the other big. However, these differences are not things that bother us more than that. Where it bothers us is when the difference is more important. So being dwarf, obese, or sick can change a life.
Some people cope with it without difficulty, overcome the difficulty, the way people look and even make it a strength. Others will be destroyed by this difference and will only see the bad side of it.
But then how can we ensure that this difference becomes an asset, a singularity, a positive particularity?
It all comes down to our choices and actions.
The Dalai Lama said:
” Sow an act, you will reap a habit; sow a habit, you will reap a character; sow a character, you will reap a destiny. “
And the solution is there. If you want to change your destiny, you need to change your actions. Oh yes, thank you Julien, but how do we do that?
One step at a time. The first is often the hardest to achieve.
It is often said that the hardest thing is not writing but sitting down to write. And that's so true, because once you start, the words come. In life, it's the same, the hardest part is not acting but starting to act.
So decide today on an action that you want to take and that can make a difference in the long term. It can be a very small thing to do every day. Know that to build a wall, you have to put one brick, then another brick, and then another brick until the wall is finished.
What wall do you want to build? What do you want to achieve?
Look into the question. It is so important. And you don't have to know exactly what you want to get started. On the contrary, starting to take action will refine your choices and your vision of the end result.
Be patient and start taking action now. Not tomorrow, not in an hour, now.
Life is too short to focus on failures. Make your differences a strength. These can take you to places you wouldn't even imagine possible. We all have something special about us. Something that makes us extraordinary. Personally, I chose to make my bipolarity a strength, an asset and a tool to make progress on a daily basis.
